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Taking The Cure

44In 1993 I went to a product seminar about detoxing. Specifically about our need to eliminate waste or poop. It was quite enlightening about the amount of the crap that we tote around. Someone told the old story about John Wayne’s 10 lbs of accumulated waste in his colon at the time of his death. I still shudder to this day imagining that autopsy. Eeeeeewww! Anyway…the speaker went on to talk about the wisdom of children spending adequate time on the potty for a good ‘moving’ experience. Actually I witnessed this at the dentist office a couple of months ago. An 8 year old boy was happily singing to himself in the bathroom which was about 10 feet away from my seat in the waiting area, ignoring calls from his Mom that it was time to see his friend the dentist. The boy kept yelling, “I’m not finished!” His Mom smiled and said, “He likes to take his time.” Good for him! Who wants to hurry to see the dentist anyway. Smart little guy was multi-tasking.

After the seminar I arrived back home with several containers of…I don’t remember…with the belief that when I drank the substance, I would literally poop out and off several pounds of weight. Losing weight is most women’s detox dream, but I now know the real skivvy on the subject. Our bodies continually detox. It’s not a one time event, but part of the body’s highly developed system of balance. A kind of housekeeping that involves all of our parts: body, mind and spirit.

Dr. Deanna Minich’s book, Whole Detox, clearly explains the multi-faceted subject and gives the reader a road map to make changes that will promote better health in cleansing your whole self. Changing how you think about yourself and others, how you talk to yourself and how you approach food will greatly enhance your life instead of creating the stress of sticking to a restrictive diet, or drinking some awful tasting concoction hoping for a one-time detox experience that will forever rid yourself of…whatever. Health isn’t sustained by a single event. Every day your body and mind will perform it’s tasks if fed properly with good food, good thoughts, and specific ways to nourish your spirit.

Many years ago I became convinced that I needed to rid myself of every nasty parasite, known and unknown, to be healthy. I read those ads that told me for a mere $75 (payments were available, or maybe I could get 2 for the price of one!), my detox dreams would come true. But when I finally ordered the kit, I was terrified by the lengthy list of potential harm that the product could cause, and the description of what could be expelled. My utter fear stopped that effort, thank goodness, as well as the absolutely gruesome stories from a couple of people I knew who actually went this route, so I guess it was a $75 learning experience. This episode reminded me that I knew the mystery of what lurks in our gut already. And I learned from the master.

As a child, I listened intently as my Grandma Rose told dark healing stories that truly frightened me about the critters she extracted from her children and close relatives, and I believed every one. I would beg her to tell me these stories over and over, knowing that I wouldn’t sleep after hearing them. One involved a push mower and the result of straining too hard. You get the picture. But make no mistake, Grandma loved the telling as if the knowledge was ancient, only available to a few, and always embellished with such memorable pictures that they became imprinted in my mind in a way that I would almost swear I witnessed each one in all it’s glorious gore.

Alice Rose was steeped in East Tennessee hill lore, and was a survival story herself having birthed and raised 9 babies with no running water or electricity in her house. Oscar, my granddad, was sort of on the periphery of my childhood. Grandma was the central figure to her family, and when she painted those vivid scenes of extricating varmints from folks, I listened and believed!

33My absolute trust in Grandma’s mojo was cemented at 5 years old on one steamy, East Tennessee summer evening . It was a Sunday event that only happened to the chosen few, and I was a witness to this miracle during a “come to Jesus” call in the wide, deep part of the creek that meandered in front of her house. There were a few folks walking into, not on the water, which didn’t jibe with my Presbyterian understanding of miracles. Vacation Bible School was very specific concerning miracles. So not understanding the whole baptism theology of submersion (we Presbys were not even sprinkled until 12 or 13), they looked very serious and a tad crazy rather than having received any kind of blessing, but Grandma said it was a miracle, therefore it was. No one looked “delivered.” They were all just standing around watching the converts slowly being dipped in the creek, then shouting “Hal-lay-lew-yuh!” when the soaked folks emerged. I guess I thought the miracle was that they weren’t drowned, but lived to tell the tale. This scene was replayed in the movie, “O Brother, Where Art Thou” as the congregation slowly moved to the river to save the sinners, singing:

As I went down in the river to pray
Studying about that good ol’ way
And who shall wear the starry crown?
Good Lord show me the way!

O sisters let’s go down
Let’s go down, come on down
O sisters let’s go down
Down in the river to pray

After the indoctrination of the wet conversions, I was totally convinced that Grandma Rose knew some big secrets when she told me if I had a persistent tickle in my throat, it might be a w##m (nasty squiggly thing!), and that I should immediately eat some salt to stop it’s possible exit. Boys Hattie! (I know that phrase doesn’t make any sense, but it’s necessary. lol) I ate salt! Even in the middle of the night! I’m pretty sure I consumed enough sodium chloride for my entire family’s lifetimes, but there certainly were never any traveling squigglies either!

In order to detox without eating copious amounts of salt, I suggest reading Whole Detox by Dr. Deanna Minich, to understand how all parts of your body work together to continually detox and balance. Anthony William who has identified many foods, supplements and much more to rid yourself of all sorts of health devouring viruses and other harmful substances in his book, Medical Medium, also included a cleanse for boosting your body’s immune system to move your healing forward.

Although there are people who have serious parasites, especially in third world countries, we may have co-evolved with a few creatures into a mutually beneficial relationship. Not every one of the little buggers is an enemy. We humans just don’t want to believe that there may be uninvited friends that are smarter than us, and  have purer intentions.

 

 

Daddy and the B-17

Vernon King - Staff Seargant 1942

Vernon King – Staff Sergeant 1942

My Daddy was a risk-taker, and so am I. Vernon King was a card-counting poker player and was also known to bet on a golf game or two. He was a waist gunner in a B-17 over Nazi Germany in WWII who parlayed his share of the King family farm into a construction business in the boom that followed the war. In 1949, I became a part of that boom…the baby boom. I grew up in an area in South Knoxville that Daddy developed and built homes on roads which he named after people on his side of the family. There was King Road of course, Thomas Road, Virgil Drive named for a great-uncle I never knew. We lived on Lindy Road, named after a Great-aunt Lindy. Never knew her either. Actually, I did know more about the Thomas. He was a King cousin who oddly enough was the second husband of Mother’s oldest sister, Dot Tarwater, the Tarwater being her third husband. The Thomas cousin was Aunt Dot’s second husband…I think his name was Huce (I know…lol)…they had a daughter Linda, who was a ‘double’ cousin since she sprang from both sides of the family. It was…after all…the South.

Daddy instructed me in the important art of bluffing. It’s every little girl’s dream, right? His attempt at making me a golfer was a failure, but I did learn a few useful techniques from poker. In closing a deal, know when to shut up, how to effectively use a ‘poker face’, when to walk away (good grief…sounds like Kenny Rogers), and how to recognize opportunity when it happens by. Because he was a community developer and new home builder, I have an inherited love of that process, and the smell of new wood, drywall and paint still draws me as a moth to the flame. Vernon’s poker lessons also paid off later in life when I decided to go into business for myself. If you can’t close the deal, you don’t eat.

I was the first-born of four children and definitely Daddy’s little girl. And in keeping with my special status, I occasionally accompanied him on various adventures in his truck. We went fishing with his friend Ivan who was very patient and helped me hold my rod and position my line to catch a fish. Daddy was nervous and had little patience, so I had a good ‘ol time with Ivan and later took my little fish home to fry. One summer evening, off we went to a minor league baseball game. We had hot dogs and cokes, sang “Take Me Out to the Ballgame,” and in the cooler evening, Daddy wrapped me in a blanket with my head poking through a big hole in it. I thought he was very clever to bring such a cozy wrap, but truthfully it was probably the only blanket Mother would let us use. Too much mustard and ketchup goin’ on. I can still remember the smells of the ballpark, see the lights as they flooded the field at dusk, taste the Cracker Jack, and Daddy laughing at my constant,”When’s it gonna’ be over?” Baseball is a sloooowww game for a four year old.

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One of my favorite adventures was an early morning trip to pick up Daddy’s crew. We stopped on the way at Holloway’s tiny neighborhood store and picked up a bag of peanuts and an RC Cola. I never mastered the technique of putting the peanuts in the bottle and eating them while taking a swig of cola. I tried once and choked. Daddy laughed and we were off to pick up the men. There was Mr. Ogle who sat on the front seat with me, and Newton who would hop in the back of the truck. It could have been that I took Newton’s spot on the seat, but it seemed to me at the time that there was definitely a pecking order. After all, Daddy called Mr. Ogle “Mister.” I think just plain ‘Newton’ must have indicated that he was a bit of a shady character not deserving of a “Mister” before his name.

At the building site, we all piled out of Daddy’s 1949 green Ford truck, and I proudly carried my little mint green tool box to a spot where I happily pounded away on a piece of two-by-four with my rubber hammer, or collected those “nickels” punched out of the electrical boxes. Then I watched Mr. Ogle mix the ‘mud’ (concrete) in a wheelbarrow, carefully adding the best ratio of water to make a thick paste for laying brick. Then he and Daddy would skillfully lay row after row of perfectly aligned and finished brick. About thirty-five years later, I moved back to Knoxville for a short time and was thinking about possibly buying a home that Vernon had built in 1952. I remarked about how much I admired his brickwork. He laughed and said, “If lightening struck this house, there are enough empty beer cans between these walls to blow this house to kingdom come!” Reality also struck. I didn’t know that in those years he drank on the job. That brickwork was awfully darn perfect for all that. Oddly enough, that very same house was the cause of a childhood reoccurring nightmare.

One evening I escaped Mother’s attention and took off toward the aforementioned house in search of my Daddy. There was another house between our home and the new one he was finishing up. When I arrived, there was a deafening noise and around the corner of the house came a giant bulldozer! It was ten times as big to a three year old. I took off up the driveway and ran all the way from the beginning of the newly troweled concrete sidewalk, up the wet steps and onto the perfectly finished porch. Daddy jumped off the bulldozer and was right behind me…but too late to prevent all those little footprints in his finished concrete. He just scooped me up and held me. I dreamed a bulldozer was chasing me for years after that scare, but Daddy wasn’t there to save me. Some years later I watched him finish a full basement floor. I can still hear the rhythmic “swishhh…swishhh…swishhh” of the trowel as he moved from the far corner of the floor smoothing the concrete, then moving the board he was kneeling on until the entire surface was perfect and glistening. After that I had a new appreciation of the havoc I wreaked all those years ago escaping that bulldozer.

Alcohol was my father’s drug of choice to calm the horrors of WWII. As children we played with hisflying cross 2 Distinguished Flying Cross without giving a thought to the reasons why he received it. I remember the feel of the metal and ribbons in my hand and smell of the box that it came in. None of us could ever even imagine how much that war affected him. We can never know how he managed to build a life for us and Mother while desperately holding it together with alcohol and later, Valium. But he did. There were times of no drinking at all, then stretches of family turmoil and much upheaval. Mother suffered from her own version of PTSD, and had little ability to sift through his experiences as well as her own and also handle four rambunctious children. Music was our special glue, but even my parents love of singing together and creating those beautiful harmonies eventually wore thin.

Years later on a trip to visit my parents during the 1982 World’s Fair in my hometown, Daddy decided that I should play golf with him and his older brother Reps (another great name!). In order to not waste a game, he made me practice at the driving range until I was able to consistently hit a golf ball off the tee. Then the next day just after daybreak, we were off to the country club with Uncle Reps in tow. Daddy had long since stopped drinking, so he was very impatient and jittery. The first nine holes were exhausting, mostly because I was running all over the course hunting my balls that went in every possible direction but toward the hole. On the second nine it began sprinkling rain, and I wanted to fall on my knees and thank God for it when Vernon said, “It doesn’t rain on the golf course.” Me and my uncle looked at one another, our hopes of a reprieve squelched, as Daddy jumped in the golf cart speeding to the next tee, leaving me and my near-seventy year old uncle running after him. That was vintage Vernon.

I now know that a deficiency of stored glucose was the cause of Daddy’s drinking. In his book Medical Medium, Anthony William explains PTSD thoroughly and with much understanding and compassion. My father was instinctively trying to send sugar or glucose to his brain in order to rectify the chemical imbalance resulting from the trauma he endured in the war. Alcohol provided the quickest route and was therefore speedy relief. I also had that deficiency which caused in me the same craving for alcohol that plagued my Dad. I too was diagnosed with PTSD after my heart bypass surgery and the sorrow of two unsuccessful marriages. But please know that trauma can affect us in seemingly insignificant as well as obviously impactful life events. It’s real and can be devastating. One of the most healing quick tips from Anthony William is to eat fresh fruit, organic as much as possible, and lots and lots of it, instead of the processed sugars we all crave. Abundant fruit in your life will replenish your much needed glucose stores as well as providing nutrients crucial to creating health and a sense of well being. I have found this to be true for myself and people very close to me who have consumed four or more pieces of fresh fruit a day and have literally broken through crippling fear and anxiety that kept them from fully experiencing their life. That is fruit…powwwer! (Big booming voice. lol)

I wish I had that old wrinkled picture of me and my Dad sitting in the front yard in lawn chairs, mine a miniature of his, with our arms and legs folded exactly the same. My 3 year old life was just beginning and I loved my Daddy! I miss just knowing he’s in the world.

And now for your listening pleasure (best with headphones), my brother Barry’s story in song about our Dad, Vernon King and the B-17.

Barry King – “B-17” from the album, almost acceptable. (Purple Garage Records ©2009)
Words, music, vocals and all instruments by Barry King.

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The Scurrilous Watermelon Adventure

Thinking capChildren are ripe for every kind of indoctrination growing up in this world. Out of the womb we begin to soak up what we see and hear in our homes, from our friends, what our teachers present to us, and what we’re permitted to see on TV or movies or the rest of virtual reality. Some is necessary training we need to navigate the world, but too much of this brainwashing is because of the hogwash we’re fed in a media driven society gone wild. The amount of trash on TV alone is overwhelming. It is very difficult to understand that any purposeful physical abuse against another human being or a defenseless animal or the planet for that matter, could be a justifiable belief. But as we constantly see in the media, abuses of all kinds are running rampant, and sometimes, we as individuals believe we are powerless to right the ship. Add in the burden of emotional energies such as anger, fear, being treated unfairly, or broken trust that humans carry through the generations, and children and adults are left with a murky brew of confusion as to what we should or want to believe. Doesn’t matter whether or not we consciously ruminate on past hurts and injustices, they are ingrained in the deep recesses of our subconscious and are a part of who we are until we can get rid of them, which is no easy task.

Growing up in East Tennessee, I was surrounded by prejudice or fear-based beliefs. There were the usual targets of black people, Jews, poor white trash, sissies and people from the North. My high school was all white kids and was further segregated into three levels of educational goals which translated to the students as smart, average and not so average. I’m pretty sure there were plenty of deadbeats in the smart group, and several geniuses in the other two. Education doesn’t always translate to success, so those unfair and untrue labels skewed our belief in self at that critical period just before leaving the nest. I’ve found as I navigate life, that we surely can change our inherited life view. Can’t blame someone else forever. We can re-shape our belief system into a positive and uplifting life for ourselves and in doing so, greatly influence those around us.

When I was 10 years old, my Grandma Rose decided that she would install me and my cousin Robert Watermelon for saleon the side of the road in front of her house with a watermelon stand. Grandma’s mojo (established in my 5-28-16 post) also included growing perfectly round, black-green and spectacularly sweet, red flesh watermelon. To enjoy the fruit of her labor, her children and grandchildren would gather in her front yard, set up wooden saw horses with plywood and newspaper on top, and cut several melons into thick wedges which we would eat, dripping juice in the grass, while we sharpened our seed spitting skills.

That summer as usual, I was hanging with Grandma and learning useful things like embroidery (I still have the pillowcase with the little roses, and you can definitely distinguish my poor little flower from Grandma’s handiwork), the best time of day to sit on the porch and break green beans, how to wring a chicken’s neck, slop the hogs…the normal stuff (lol). Anyway, this particular lesson was in commerce and included Robert, who was 13 and lived across the street. We were summer compatriots in the rolling hills behind his house. Our adventures were glorious, exhausting, noon to dusk days full of exploration and just plain fun.

Grandma’s house was not situated on a busy street, but was more like a country road with a history. Old Sevierville Pike, it’s original name, had at one time connected South Knoxville to Sevierville, TN, the birthplace of Dolly Parton for all you country music fans. My family lived in what was considered a suburban neighborhood, but no one told Grandma, who lived maybe a mile or so from us, that hogs and chickens weren’t very suburban. So I always felt like her house was somehow in a different universe. She and Grandad had moved closer to town from the ‘old homestead’ where Grandma had birthed their 9 children, but had managed to bring along most of the familiar smells such as the hogs. Seemed perfectly okay at the time, although I don’t recall anyone else around there generating those same smells. You simply could not take the country out of Alice Rose!

My Grandma was very industrious. She had to be to feed all those children in the poverty of the area in the early 1900’s. She figured selling watermelon (sorry…watermelonis just not right) for 50 cents a pop was a good profit, and myself and Robert were the handy and willing sales people for the job. I vividly remember standing in the shaded spot on the opposite side of the pike from her house and believing that we were going to be very successful in our effort. Grandma smiled and waved as she sat on her porch breaking even more green beans, and we waved back as we waited for our hungry customers to come down the road.

Just as I was thinking that we should cut some samples to lure people in, all my hopes came to a crashing halt.  The first car that came down the road had a passenger who yelled an epithet at Robert that started with an ‘N’. My cousin was part Cherokee Indian and tanned a deep bronze-brown in the summer. That horror of a person had assumed he was of a different heritage and yelled out that word because Robert was standing with a young white girl. He spat out that filth because of his own inherent and  learned anger and fear that he didn’t measure up in some way. In order to elevate himself, he had to place other people below him in importance. Whole generations carry that through life after life, spreading and adding to what is an untrue and unnatural belief. I see their souls cluttered with pockets of dark energy, growing like a cancer. Ugly, but also very sad because too many are convinced of its truth. I’m not immune to this cancer. No one is.

As a young girl, I didn’t see color. Robert could have been green for all I cared. But I will admit to having to come against prejudice later in life that still seeps into my thoughts like the slime that it is. To this day I remember my utter dismay when Grandma walked across the street to usher us back to safety, deciding that our venture had to end almost before it began. But I also felt shame, as though we were somehow to blame. I think that’s when I started to wake up to words peppered in the everyday language of people that I really loved. People who saw no harm in using racial slurs as descriptions or in jokes. And the biggest irony? Robert’s parents, my aunt and uncle, named their black cocker spaniel…yep…the “N” word.

Be careful when you spew crap. It might just be flung right back atcha’!

And another thing…eat the watermelon seeds. Don’t spit them out as we were taught as youngsters. They won’t grow a watermelon in your tummy, and they’re very nutritious. 🙂

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